Category Archives: Relationship Issues

Don’t forget the Dean trauma

On April 19, 1978, Brian and Vriana Dean were brutally murdered when they surprised a burglar ransacking their house. Prior to murdering the Dean kids, John Zimmerman, an unemployed heroin addict, ransacked the Mickey’s house. Had Lloyd not seen a white van in the alley behind the Dean’s house, Zimmerman likely would never have been…

Damn, kids get really sick

In my last blog, I wrote about the impacts, both positive and negative, of a car accident I was in when I was 17. My trauma was beyond difficult.  If you’re interested, you can find it on my website.  It’s titled, “Yep, I was only 17.”  In today’s blog, I look at how trauma related…

Yep, I was only 17

At about 12:10 a.m. on April 21, 1985, I got in the car with my main mate TS.  We’d been drinking and I was a passenger in his 1985 Accord Coupe.  When I woke-up in the hospital 9 days later, I learned we’d wrapped around a telephone pole and I’d had three seizures and been…

March Madness Madness

IT’S TIME FOR MARCH MADNESS! In KD’s basketball game the other day he should have passed the ball a bit more. One time down the court he forced a shot and it was an air ball. I was in the stands right in front of him and he said, “Carmelo.” We both giggled, and he…

More Tips for Holiday Survival with Family

Holiday Family Dynamics It seems like the intense feelings people had immediately after the election have simmered down a little.  But with the inauguration coming, flare-ups are inevitable.  One potential hot spot could be at the Christmas (or another holiday) dinner table. In my last post, I shared thoughts about how to navigate things with…

4 Tips for Talking Things Out

When Things Take a Wrong Turn: Talking Things Out I spent last Saturday night at one of my best friend’s house. Late in the evening, as we chatted rather energetically/boisterously, he unexpectedly got up, told me I was being kind of a d… and headed to bed. As he walked away, I asked him what…

Even Buster Posey Gets Lonely – Parenting Lesson

Parenting Challenges A few days ago, KD was reading the paper and updating me, rapid-fire, on Buster Posey’s stats. I was also reading the paper and asked him to keep it down a bit. Literally in mid-sentence he hit the brakes and didn’t say another word. Off to his room he went. Well clearly I…

Clayton Kershaw Throws Heat : Parenting Challenges

Ok, the Dodgers have clinched their division.  But this Dodger fan didn’t do quite as well with his parenting.  One from the archives. ________________________________________________________________________ If you’ve been following my blog, you know KD and I have been banging heads these days.  Not all the time, but enough that it’s wearing on me.  Lots of factors…

Tips for Tough Talks with Your Teen

First, a reminder. My 10-week men’s counseling group began this past Monday. In the last week, two men realized that their professional conflicts make it impossible to attend the group and asked to delay until the next group. As a result,  I’m opening the group back-up for two men would like to explore with other…

Monkey out of water

First, I want to remind you about my upcoming men’s group.  It’s limited to seven men, and I have two spots left.  If you want more specific information, check out my recent blog: “Men at work, men without hats, and men’s counseling group.”  It’s on the homepage of my website: rivercitycounseling.com _________________________________________________________________________________ If my last…