Category Archives: Men’s Issues

Don’t forget the Dean trauma

On April 19, 1978, Brian and Vriana Dean were brutally murdered when they surprised a burglar ransacking their house. Prior to murdering the Dean kids, John Zimmerman, an unemployed heroin addict, ransacked the Mickey’s house. Had Lloyd not seen a white van in the alley behind the Dean’s house, Zimmerman likely would never have been…

Yep, I was only 17

At about 12:10 a.m. on April 21, 1985, I got in the car with my main mate TS.  We’d been drinking and I was a passenger in his 1985 Accord Coupe.  When I woke-up in the hospital 9 days later, I learned we’d wrapped around a telephone pole and I’d had three seizures and been…

March Madness Madness

IT’S TIME FOR MARCH MADNESS! In KD’s basketball game the other day he should have passed the ball a bit more. One time down the court he forced a shot and it was an air ball. I was in the stands right in front of him and he said, “Carmelo.” We both giggled, and he…

4 Tips for Talking Things Out

When Things Take a Wrong Turn: Talking Things Out I spent last Saturday night at one of my best friend’s house. Late in the evening, as we chatted rather energetically/boisterously, he unexpectedly got up, told me I was being kind of a d… and headed to bed. As he walked away, I asked him what…

Monkey out of water

First, I want to remind you about my upcoming men’s group.  It’s limited to seven men, and I have two spots left.  If you want more specific information, check out my recent blog: “Men at work, men without hats, and men’s counseling group.”  It’s on the homepage of my website: rivercitycounseling.com _________________________________________________________________________________ If my last…

29 monkeys in the pool

I have a busy mind. It never stops. Call it anxiety. Call it AD/HD. Call it what you will. But I’m just busy. Knowing about my struggles, a couple of important people in my life suggested meditation. Sit quietly and focus on your breath. When your mind wanders, just bring it back to the breath….

Men at work, men without hats, & men’s counseling group

Hello Gentlemen: I’m writing to invite you to join me in the next round of my counseling group for men that will begin on Monday, September 19th. The group will meet from 715-830 p.m. each Monday and will last for ten weeks. The group will be limited to seven men and will meet at my…

He does, she does, everyone PROCRASTINATES!!!

I’m doing it as I write.  I should be doing things that are more important than this.  Yet, here I am writing my blog.  I believe I’m procrastinating.  I think everyone procrastinates.  And since it’s the beginning of the school year, I figured it’s time to revisit why our kids do it. About 95% of…

NO REGRETS!!!

Open your mind’s eye for a second and flash to a bunch of dudes.  Voices rising, they pound their chests and yell, “No Regrets!!!”  You try to ignore them, but secretly you roll your eyes and scoff at them. And yet today, I’m feeling them.  KD starts school tomorrow, and he has been acting out…

Living in LA with my best old friend Dave

I left Los Angeles in 1998 and moved to Berkeley. I left my whole life behind: parents, family, friends, career, etc. You know what they say about moving for love… I left my best friend Dave behind. Dave and I knew each other in kindergarten (so he says) and were in the same class in…