Category Archives: trauma

Don’t forget the Dean trauma

On April 19, 1978, Brian and Vriana Dean were brutally murdered when they surprised a burglar ransacking their house. Prior to murdering the Dean kids, John Zimmerman, an unemployed heroin addict, ransacked the Mickey’s house. Had Lloyd not seen a white van in the alley behind the Dean’s house, Zimmerman likely would never have been…

29 monkeys in the pool

I have a busy mind. It never stops. Call it anxiety. Call it AD/HD. Call it what you will. But I’m just busy. Knowing about my struggles, a couple of important people in my life suggested meditation. Sit quietly and focus on your breath. When your mind wanders, just bring it back to the breath….

Thank god! We lost it in troubled waters-River City Counseling

When I got my first cell phone, my wife complained because I wouldn’t pick up or return calls. It wasn’t anything personal; most of the time I accidentally left it at home. It was more of an annoyance that anything else. Years later, we got rid of our landline, and it became the only way…

I wish I was homeward bound

As you read this, I’m sitting down on my chair, hanging out with my son, drinking my coffee, and heading to work. I’m going to see clients, do paperwork, and head home. And this is where it’s going to get crazy. And I mean crazy. Because I’m going to go home to my new house….

It’s not nearly as bad as last year

The holidays are back and this therapist is looking forward to a couple of days off.  Here’s one from the files.  Until next time… __________________________________________________________________ First, a disclaimer: this comes from my perspective, one who celebrates Christmas. I realize that not all of my readers celebrate this holiday. Thus, apply it to your holiday traditions……

Bro Hugs-River City Counseling

First, I want to thank all of you who recently subscribed to my blog.  As quirky as this post might seem at first blush, I’m looking at themes that I often explore: parenting, healthy relationships, and men communicating with other men.  I hope you enjoy this. _______________________________________________________________________________________ Many of you know that the stereotypical barbershop…

Trauma here, there, and everywhere

In our lives, we experience little and big traumas.  Some impact our lives without disabling us; others are life changing.  The impacts of last week’s horrors in Paris are impossible to predict.  But it goes without saying that for the survivors and their family members,  their lives will forever be affected in ways that are…

When 23 is the new 22

I’ve recently realized that many of the young men I see are challenged by similar issues: having adult relationships with their parents and siblings, navigating romantic relationships, moving out and in with friends/romantic interests, job and educational challenges, struggling with anger and frustration, etc. These are challenges young men have faced forever, but, for a…

He ain’t heavy, he’s my brother-River City Counseling

First, I want to apologize for the email you received yesterday. It was a technical glitch on my end. Let’s hope this one reaches you safely and in its entirety. ______________________________________________________________________________ Before our children are born, we parents have all sorts of lofty goals and aspirations. We’re always going to be firm but loving. We’ll…

Coffee or a beer? It’s on me.

On Mother’s Day, I saw a casual friend in church. Her son died a couple of years ago, and I didn’t know what to say. A few days later, a closer friend told me his father died a few weeks prior. I know he had a complicated relationship with him, and I didn’t know what…