Category Archives: Self-esteem

Parents talk and kids talk

I’m not sure how many times I written about how KD, my 10-year-old son, and I bang heads. This happens for umpteen reasons and I’ve gotten tired of it. KD goes to a school that prides itself on being peaceful, and if there’s a conflict, the kids go to a peace table and have “peace…

BULLYING: more help for parents

BULLYING Years ago, I got pulled into a new friend group of dudes. It was the best! I was sort of new to town and was lonely. I loved being included. My awful feelings drifted away. I was also pretty new to Facebook, and one day I saw pictures of all the dudes with their…

Men at work, men without hats, & men’s counseling group

Hello Gentlemen: I’m writing to invite you to join me in the next round of my counseling group for men that will begin on Monday, September 19th. The group will meet from 715-830 p.m. each Monday and will last for ten weeks. The group will be limited to seven men and will meet at my…

He does, she does, everyone PROCRASTINATES!!!

I’m doing it as I write.  I should be doing things that are more important than this.  Yet, here I am writing my blog.  I believe I’m procrastinating.  I think everyone procrastinates.  And since it’s the beginning of the school year, I figured it’s time to revisit why our kids do it. About 95% of…

NO REGRETS!!!

Open your mind’s eye for a second and flash to a bunch of dudes.  Voices rising, they pound their chests and yell, “No Regrets!!!”  You try to ignore them, but secretly you roll your eyes and scoff at them. And yet today, I’m feeling them.  KD starts school tomorrow, and he has been acting out…

Hurry up, the odds are best on seven

First, something fun.  On Monday night I was interviewed on the local CBS station about the impacts that winning the lottery could have on someone.  I’d love it if you checked it out.  To do so, copy and paste the link in your toolbar above. http://sacramento.cbslocal.com/2016/01/11/is-the-1-4-billion-powerball-jackpot-too-much-for-one-person/ ____________________________________________________________________ Hello Gentlemen and those who love them: I’m…

And you thought I was just obnoxious

A few years ago I worked with a 9th grade boy who, quite frankly, pushed my buttons. He was rude and offensive, and I really didn’t know if I could help him. Unfortunately, I think my feelings showed through, and it wasn’t long before he refused to see me. His parents then sent him to…

Kumbaya for Three

The messages start the moment you’re born: you’re cute, you’re nice, you’re good-natured because you smile all the time, you have pretty eyes, and you look like your mother, father, grandfathers, etc. Since you look like all of them, you also carry all of their positive (never negative with newborns) personality characteristics. And the messages…

Did you top off the tank?

Last weekend, it happened:  KD joined what I thought was another relatively “low-key” soccer league, which I thought would focus much more on having fun and skill development than on winning and losing.  Sure, the kids are learning, but the focus has broadened.  We spent the entire day at a “seeding tournament,” in which KD’s…

When 23 is the new 22

I’ve recently realized that many of the young men I see are challenged by similar issues: having adult relationships with their parents and siblings, navigating romantic relationships, moving out and in with friends/romantic interests, job and educational challenges, struggling with anger and frustration, etc. These are challenges young men have faced forever, but, for a…