Category Archives: Grief/Loss

Don’t forget the Dean trauma

On April 19, 1978, Brian and Vriana Dean were brutally murdered when they surprised a burglar ransacking their house. Prior to murdering the Dean kids, John Zimmerman, an unemployed heroin addict, ransacked the Mickey’s house. Had Lloyd not seen a white van in the alley behind the Dean’s house, Zimmerman likely would never have been…

Yep, I was only 17

At about 12:10 a.m. on April 21, 1985, I got in the car with my main mate TS.  We’d been drinking and I was a passenger in his 1985 Accord Coupe.  When I woke-up in the hospital 9 days later, I learned we’d wrapped around a telephone pole and I’d had three seizures and been…

NO REGRETS!!!

Open your mind’s eye for a second and flash to a bunch of dudes.  Voices rising, they pound their chests and yell, “No Regrets!!!”  You try to ignore them, but secretly you roll your eyes and scoff at them. And yet today, I’m feeling them.  KD starts school tomorrow, and he has been acting out…

Here we go again and again and again

My parents lived close to Watts during the riots of 1965. Not long after my pregnant mother was walked home from the grocery store by a member of the Harlem Globtrotters, who recognized that things were heating up, my parents realized that things were way too dangerous and left the area for a few days….

An extra shot or I shot the sheriff

You don’t need to go any further than your local coffee shop. The guy in-line with dreadlocks and smelling of patchouli is a total “stoner.” The barista with gauges and tattoos is a “slacker.” The guy dressed all in black, blogging furiously on his MacBook and giving you the elevator and scowling at you is…

Really! Not this again

I want to thank those of you who have subscribed to my blog recently. To catch-you-up, many of my blogs revolve around the highs and lows, joys and challenges for my wife and me parenting our 8-year-old boy, KD. He is an only child who loves sports, and I’m his main playmate. He’s kind, sweet,…

Handball with guilt and a lemon twist

I don’t take many holidays off. I’m our sole earner (ok 99.5%) and people come to therapy on holidays. So it was a HUGE deal that I took off President’s Day, but I felt l owed it to myself, my wife, and most of all, my son, to skip work and hang around the house…

Super glue or velcro, your choice

In KD’s basketball game the other day he should have passed the ball a bit more. One time down the court he forced a shot and it was an air ball. I was in the stands right in front of him and he said, “Carmelo.” We both giggled, and he went back to play defense….

Crap, Grandma wore her hearing aid!

Christmas is this Friday.  Many of you will spend time with your family, including grandma and grandpa.  Although you’re tempted to “play down” and sit at the kids’ table, you’re with the adults.  Since you’re patient, a loving grandchild, and a good sport, you’re placed between grandma and grandpa.  In the past you’ve listened pleasantly,…

It’s not nearly as bad as last year

The holidays are back and this therapist is looking forward to a couple of days off.  Here’s one from the files.  Until next time… __________________________________________________________________ First, a disclaimer: this comes from my perspective, one who celebrates Christmas. I realize that not all of my readers celebrate this holiday. Thus, apply it to your holiday traditions……