Category Archives: Depression

Don’t forget the Dean trauma

On April 19, 1978, Brian and Vriana Dean were brutally murdered when they surprised a burglar ransacking their house. Prior to murdering the Dean kids, John Zimmerman, an unemployed heroin addict, ransacked the Mickey’s house. Had Lloyd not seen a white van in the alley behind the Dean’s house, Zimmerman likely would never have been…

Here we go again and again and again

My parents lived close to Watts during the riots of 1965. Not long after my pregnant mother was walked home from the grocery store by a member of the Harlem Globtrotters, who recognized that things were heating up, my parents realized that things were way too dangerous and left the area for a few days….

It’s not nearly as bad as last year

The holidays are back and this therapist is looking forward to a couple of days off.  Here’s one from the files.  Until next time… __________________________________________________________________ First, a disclaimer: this comes from my perspective, one who celebrates Christmas. I realize that not all of my readers celebrate this holiday. Thus, apply it to your holiday traditions……

And you thought I was just obnoxious

A few years ago I worked with a 9th grade boy who, quite frankly, pushed my buttons. He was rude and offensive, and I really didn’t know if I could help him. Unfortunately, I think my feelings showed through, and it wasn’t long before he refused to see me. His parents then sent him to…

When 23 is the new 22

I’ve recently realized that many of the young men I see are challenged by similar issues: having adult relationships with their parents and siblings, navigating romantic relationships, moving out and in with friends/romantic interests, job and educational challenges, struggling with anger and frustration, etc. These are challenges young men have faced forever, but, for a…

He ain’t heavy, he’s my brother-River City Counseling

First, I want to apologize for the email you received yesterday. It was a technical glitch on my end. Let’s hope this one reaches you safely and in its entirety. ______________________________________________________________________________ Before our children are born, we parents have all sorts of lofty goals and aspirations. We’re always going to be firm but loving. We’ll…

Coffee or a beer? It’s on me.

On Mother’s Day, I saw a casual friend in church. Her son died a couple of years ago, and I didn’t know what to say. A few days later, a closer friend told me his father died a few weeks prior. I know he had a complicated relationship with him, and I didn’t know what…

I may sob, but I really don’t care!

The following is a two-part series on how families can prepare when their oldest child leaves for college.  The first is help for parents to adjust and cope.  The second focuses on helping younger siblings cope.  I hope you enjoy and share it with those who could benefit. __________________________________________________________________________________ When I started college my parents…

Heads-up, 7-up, or a table for one?

Life is filled with trauma.  Every day, hard stuff happens, and we struggle to cope. I initially posted this right after my son started kindergarten.  Today, he finished first grade, a point we never thought he’d reach.  Unfortunately, the effects of the trauma it caused continue on.  A number of important people in my life…

Stop! Close the windows and whisper!-River City Counseling

Think about it, we adults all have secrets.  Maybe we were abused as kids or our parents were alcoholics.  Maybe we like to dabble in illegal drugs or binge-eat.  Or maybe it’s smaller stuff like we sometimes have thoughts that seem random and crazy (even though we’re sure we’re sane!)  Regardless of how open we…