Category Archives: Crisis/Trauma

Don’t forget the Dean trauma

On April 19, 1978, Brian and Vriana Dean were brutally murdered when they surprised a burglar ransacking their house. Prior to murdering the Dean kids, John Zimmerman, an unemployed heroin addict, ransacked the Mickey’s house. Had Lloyd not seen a white van in the alley behind the Dean’s house, Zimmerman likely would never have been…

Damn, kids get really sick

In my last blog, I wrote about the impacts, both positive and negative, of a car accident I was in when I was 17. My trauma was beyond difficult.  If you’re interested, you can find it on my website.  It’s titled, “Yep, I was only 17.”  In today’s blog, I look at how trauma related…

Yep, I was only 17

At about 12:10 a.m. on April 21, 1985, I got in the car with my main mate TS.  We’d been drinking and I was a passenger in his 1985 Accord Coupe.  When I woke-up in the hospital 9 days later, I learned we’d wrapped around a telephone pole and I’d had three seizures and been…

If the Dam Breaks & the Levees Fail

Maybe I’m a bit of a dying breed, but I’ll always take the newspaper. There’s something to be said for the ritual of putting the kettle on, shuffling to the door while it heats-up, and coming back reading it as I make my cup and then sit on my comfy chair. The other morning, I…

He does, she does, everyone PROCRASTINATES!!!

I’m doing it as I write.  I should be doing things that are more important than this.  Yet, here I am writing my blog.  I believe I’m procrastinating.  I think everyone procrastinates.  And since it’s the beginning of the school year, I figured it’s time to revisit why our kids do it. About 95% of…

Here we go again and again and again

My parents lived close to Watts during the riots of 1965. Not long after my pregnant mother was walked home from the grocery store by a member of the Harlem Globtrotters, who recognized that things were heating up, my parents realized that things were way too dangerous and left the area for a few days….

Really! Not this again

I want to thank those of you who have subscribed to my blog recently. To catch-you-up, many of my blogs revolve around the highs and lows, joys and challenges for my wife and me parenting our 8-year-old boy, KD. He is an only child who loves sports, and I’m his main playmate. He’s kind, sweet,…

Should I also trim your beard?

This is an update to recent post “Bro Hugs” which talks about my trips to my barbershops. I’ve included it below… I got a haircut yesterday by my regular guy Lou. As with my previous visits, the barbershop stereotypes fell apart (for the most part.) A regular customer came by to check-in and talk about…

Trauma here, there, and everywhere

In our lives, we experience little and big traumas.  Some impact our lives without disabling us; others are life changing.  The impacts of last week’s horrors in Paris are impossible to predict.  But it goes without saying that for the survivors and their family members,  their lives will forever be affected in ways that are…

When 23 is the new 22

I’ve recently realized that many of the young men I see are challenged by similar issues: having adult relationships with their parents and siblings, navigating romantic relationships, moving out and in with friends/romantic interests, job and educational challenges, struggling with anger and frustration, etc. These are challenges young men have faced forever, but, for a…