Author Archives: Steve DeBenedetti-Emanuel

Don’t forget the Dean trauma

On April 19, 1978, Brian and Vriana Dean were brutally murdered when they surprised a burglar ransacking their house. Prior to murdering the Dean kids, John Zimmerman, an unemployed heroin addict, ransacked the Mickey’s house. Had Lloyd not seen a white van in the alley behind the Dean’s house, Zimmerman likely would never have been…

Damn, kids get really sick

In my last blog, I wrote about the impacts, both positive and negative, of a car accident I was in when I was 17. My trauma was beyond difficult.  If you’re interested, you can find it on my website.  It’s titled, “Yep, I was only 17.”  In today’s blog, I look at how trauma related…

Yep, I was only 17

At about 12:10 a.m. on April 21, 1985, I got in the car with my main mate TS.  We’d been drinking and I was a passenger in his 1985 Accord Coupe.  When I woke-up in the hospital 9 days later, I learned we’d wrapped around a telephone pole and I’d had three seizures and been…

March Madness Madness

IT’S TIME FOR MARCH MADNESS! In KD’s basketball game the other day he should have passed the ball a bit more. One time down the court he forced a shot and it was an air ball. I was in the stands right in front of him and he said, “Carmelo.” We both giggled, and he…

If the Dam Breaks & the Levees Fail

Maybe I’m a bit of a dying breed, but I’ll always take the newspaper. There’s something to be said for the ritual of putting the kettle on, shuffling to the door while it heats-up, and coming back reading it as I make my cup and then sit on my comfy chair. The other morning, I…

Black Cats And a Four Leaf Clover

Good Luck, Bad Luck and Just Luck I have good luck. I found a platinum diamond ring at the gas station. We won the grand prize last year at the raffle at my son’s school. I’ve won over $1,000 in personal training and two free months of membership in drawings at my gym. (And if…

What’s your New Year’s Resolution?

I’m not much for New Years Resolutions. I’m into Everyday Resolutions. However, the other night I had a dream that led me to make a resolution. In it, someone told me that my wife is a ten and I’m only a five, and I have some work to do. If you know my wife, it’s…

More Tips for Holiday Survival with Family

Holiday Family Dynamics It seems like the intense feelings people had immediately after the election have simmered down a little.  But with the inauguration coming, flare-ups are inevitable.  One potential hot spot could be at the Christmas (or another holiday) dinner table. In my last post, I shared thoughts about how to navigate things with…

Tips for Holiday Survival with Family

Below is a piece I often share at Christmas time.  This year I’m posting it early, as many of you will be with your family for Thanksgiving, and the aftershocks from the election have far from stopped.  You’ll have plenty of opportunities to engage in heated conversations.  Here are some thoughts on sidestepping hot buttons,…

Why do You Procrastinate?

Reasons Kids Procrastinate In my last post, I shared a bit about how procrastination looks for me.  In today’s post, I want to dig into the “whys” I procrastinate.  I’m 100% clear that the reasons I procrastinate are likely not the same as yours.  My hope is that after reading you’ll look at your “whys”…