Category Archives: Family challenges

Parents talk and kids talk

I’m not sure how many times I written about how KD, my 10-year-old son, and I bang heads. This happens for umpteen reasons and I’ve gotten tired of it. KD goes to a school that prides itself on being peaceful, and if there’s a conflict, the kids go to a peace table and have “peace…

Men’s Counseling Group

Hello Gentlemen: I’m writing to invite you to join me in the next round of my men’s counseling group that will begin on Thursday, September 21st. The group will meet from 715-830 p.m. each Thursday and will last for ten weeks. The group will be limited to seven men and will meet at my office…

BULLYING: more help for parents

BULLYING Years ago, I got pulled into a new friend group of dudes. It was the best! I was sort of new to town and was lonely. I loved being included. My awful feelings drifted away. I was also pretty new to Facebook, and one day I saw pictures of all the dudes with their…

Is it trauma or just a little drama?

If you’ve been following my blog, you know KD’s early life was filled with medical drama, and the effects will probably be always with me, even if they fade away over the years.  Today was the first day of school, and I had a stomach ache and the tiniest bit of double vision.  Did I…

This dad took a plunge and flipped things around

At a party at our community pool, one of my main mates DJ did a flip with a backward cannonball off the high dive. Then Rogai pulled off a flip off the low dive. Now DJ and Rogai are both jocks, but they’re a decade or two past their primes. Since I’m also a jock…

More Tips for Holiday Survival with Family

Holiday Family Dynamics It seems like the intense feelings people had immediately after the election have simmered down a little.  But with the inauguration coming, flare-ups are inevitable.  One potential hot spot could be at the Christmas (or another holiday) dinner table. In my last post, I shared thoughts about how to navigate things with…

Tips for Holiday Survival with Family

Below is a piece I often share at Christmas time.  This year I’m posting it early, as many of you will be with your family for Thanksgiving, and the aftershocks from the election have far from stopped.  You’ll have plenty of opportunities to engage in heated conversations.  Here are some thoughts on sidestepping hot buttons,…

4 Tips for Talking Things Out

When Things Take a Wrong Turn: Talking Things Out I spent last Saturday night at one of my best friend’s house. Late in the evening, as we chatted rather energetically/boisterously, he unexpectedly got up, told me I was being kind of a d… and headed to bed. As he walked away, I asked him what…