Breaking the Procrastination Cycle

Negative Self-Talk and Procrastination Every once in a while I have one of those 3:30 a.m. or so wake-ups when, after freshening-up in the facilities, I can’t go back to sleep. Wide-awake, my mind goes crazy with crazy stuff. And it’s not the pleasant crazy stuff.  I rotate through all of the stuff that makes…

4 Tips for Talking Things Out

When Things Take a Wrong Turn: Talking Things Out I spent last Saturday night at one of my best friend’s house. Late in the evening, as we chatted rather energetically/boisterously, he unexpectedly got up, told me I was being kind of a d… and headed to bed. As he walked away, I asked him what…

Left Handers vs Right Handers

Just as I was heading out the door this morning, my wife asked me to wait, so I could sign something. I could have gotten all crabby, but instead just sat down. I was hungry and figured I’d eat a little something. The larder was bare, and rather than heading outside and picking some dandelions…

Even Buster Posey Gets Lonely – Parenting Lesson

Parenting Challenges A few days ago, KD was reading the paper and updating me, rapid-fire, on Buster Posey’s stats. I was also reading the paper and asked him to keep it down a bit. Literally in mid-sentence he hit the brakes and didn’t say another word. Off to his room he went. Well clearly I…

Clayton Kershaw Throws Heat : Parenting Challenges

Ok, the Dodgers have clinched their division.  But this Dodger fan didn’t do quite as well with his parenting.  One from the archives. ________________________________________________________________________ If you’ve been following my blog, you know KD and I have been banging heads these days.  Not all the time, but enough that it’s wearing on me.  Lots of factors…

Tips for tough talks with your teen

First, a reminder. My 10-week men’s counseling group began this past Monday. In the last week, two men realized that their professional conflicts make it impossible to attend the group and asked to delay until the next group. As a result,  I’m opening the group back-up for two men would like to explore with other…

Catch and release wild house flies

Just a reminder:  My men’s counseling group begins this coming Monday, September 19th.  It runs from 715-830 at my Midtown Sacramento office.  I have one spot left.  If you want more information, please look at my blog: “Men at work, men without hats, and men’s counseling group.”  It can be found on the homepage of…

Mutiny on the classroom rug

First, a reminder.  The start date of my 10-week men’s counseling group was moved back to next Monday, September 19th.  The group is from 715-830.  I have one spot left.  If you’re interested, please let me know. ______________________________________________________________________________ My first real job was as an 8th teacher. And Mr. E was the cool teacher! I…

Monkey out of water

First, I want to remind you about my upcoming men’s group.  It’s limited to seven men, and I have two spots left.  If you want more specific information, check out my recent blog: “Men at work, men without hats, and men’s counseling group.”  It’s on the homepage of my website: rivercitycounseling.com _________________________________________________________________________________ If my last…

29 monkeys in the pool

I have a busy mind. It never stops. Call it anxiety. Call it AD/HD. Call it what you will. But I’m just busy. Knowing about my struggles, a couple of important people in my life suggested meditation. Sit quietly and focus on your breath. When your mind wanders, just bring it back to the breath….