What’s your New Year’s Resolution?

I’m not much for New Years Resolutions. I’m into Everyday Resolutions. However, the other night I had a dream that led me to make a resolution. In it, someone told me that my wife is a ten and I’m only a five, and I have some work to do. If you know my wife, it’s…

More Tips for Holiday Survival with Family

Holiday Family Dynamics It seems like the intense feelings people had immediately after the election have simmered down a little.  But with the inauguration coming, flare-ups are inevitable.  One potential hot spot could be at the Christmas (or another holiday) dinner table. In my last post, I shared thoughts about how to navigate things with…

Tips for Holiday Survival with Family

Below is a piece I often share at Christmas time.  This year I’m posting it early, as many of you will be with your family for Thanksgiving, and the aftershocks from the election have far from stopped.  You’ll have plenty of opportunities to engage in heated conversations.  Here are some thoughts on sidestepping hot buttons,…

Why do You Procrastinate?

Reasons Kids Procrastinate In my last post, I shared a bit about how procrastination looks for me.  In today’s post, I want to dig into the “whys” I procrastinate.  I’m 100% clear that the reasons I procrastinate are likely not the same as yours.  My hope is that after reading you’ll look at your “whys”…

Breaking the Procrastination Cycle

Negative Self-Talk and Procrastination Every once in a while I have one of those 3:30 a.m. or so wake-ups when, after freshening-up in the facilities, I can’t go back to sleep. Wide-awake, my mind goes crazy with crazy stuff. And it’s not the pleasant crazy stuff.  I rotate through all of the stuff that makes…

4 Tips for Talking Things Out

When Things Take a Wrong Turn: Talking Things Out I spent last Saturday night at one of my best friend’s house. Late in the evening, as we chatted rather energetically/boisterously, he unexpectedly got up, told me I was being kind of a d… and headed to bed. As he walked away, I asked him what…

Left Handers vs Right Handers

Just as I was heading out the door this morning, my wife asked me to wait, so I could sign something. I could have gotten all crabby, but instead just sat down. I was hungry and figured I’d eat a little something. The larder was bare, and rather than heading outside and picking some dandelions…

Even Buster Posey Gets Lonely – Parenting Lesson

Parenting Challenges A few days ago, KD was reading the paper and updating me, rapid-fire, on Buster Posey’s stats. I was also reading the paper and asked him to keep it down a bit. Literally in mid-sentence he hit the brakes and didn’t say another word. Off to his room he went. Well clearly I…

Clayton Kershaw Throws Heat : Parenting Challenges

Ok, the Dodgers have clinched their division.  But this Dodger fan didn’t do quite as well with his parenting.  One from the archives. ________________________________________________________________________ If you’ve been following my blog, you know KD and I have been banging heads these days.  Not all the time, but enough that it’s wearing on me.  Lots of factors…

Tips for tough talks with your teen

First, a reminder. My 10-week men’s counseling group began this past Monday. In the last week, two men realized that their professional conflicts make it impossible to attend the group and asked to delay until the next group. As a result,  I’m opening the group back-up for two men would like to explore with other…