Super glue or velcro, your choice

In KD’s basketball game the other day he should have passed the ball a bit more. One time down the court he forced a shot and it was an air ball. I was in the stands right in front of him and he said, “Carmelo.” We both giggled, and he went back to play defense.

Unless you follow the NBA carefully, you’d have no idea what we’re talking about. Short version: we’re both Lakers fans. In the off-season, they talked about signing Carmelo Anthony to a free agent contract for over $20 million per season. In our opinions, it would have been a horrible signing and made the season even worse than it already is. He’s like quicksand; once he gets the ball he isn’t passing it back out. He forces and misses tons of shots. KD shot just like ‘Melo.

Another one of our latest things is playing the college game.  It’s a brilliant, non-competitive game, and the rules are simple: my wife, KD and I lounge around and name colleges, the more obscure the better. When we come up with a good one like Belmont or Florida International, you’d think we’d won March Madness. Yes, our cheers are loud, which is difficult for my wife to tolerate at 630 a.m, but we’re having a blast. And that’s what’s important.

Another time recently, our family broke out a little Men Without Hats. Many of you remember their one hit “Safety Dance.” We played the video and our family broke out the “S’s” for the rest of the afternoon and had a tough time stopping giggling.

If you’re feeling a bit confused or bored, you’re right where you should be. Almost none of you are Lakers fans and couldn’t care less about Carmelo. Maybe you’ll think about these obscure schools when you’ve got them in your bracket in a week or so. But now? And even though you can dance if you want to, you probably won’t.

And believe me there are plenty more. KD and I giggle about other things; my wife and KD have their stuff; my wife and I have our inside jokes; and our family has plenty more silly stuff. And it’s our stuff; it’s what makes us giggle, laugh and dance. It’s our glue.

And glue is my key word. When families have these sorts of inside jokes, experiences and memories, it helps them feel closer and holds them together in more challenging moments. I encourage you to take a moment and think about what your family’s glue is. Because sometimes when things are tense and people are frustrated, breaking out some “S’s” will help you not leave your family behind.

Until next time.

One Response to Super glue or velcro, your choice
  1. elizabeth
    March 8, 2016 | 9:17 am

    I love it…….My husband of 50 years plus, when asked why he doesn’t retire from his law firm, always says “I have to keep working to pay for my wife’s credit card bills”….Always get lots of laughs…..

    Humor is a wonderful part of life….Just finished a huge fund raising project for a wonderful Organization called the Orphanage Guild and my co-chair and I spent the last month doing really hard work and we laughed and howled with funny stories and comments. Your body really feels good…..

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